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Vennly Leader Spotlight: Q&A with Chaplain Julia Khan

A community chaplain, worship curator and dedicated martial artist, Julia devotes her life to living into her authentic self. Her journey began more than thirty years ago when she first stepped foot onto the dojang (martial arts training hall) floor. Being one of only a handful of children didn’t dissuade her from the allure of the painted plywood floors and endless reps of bodyweight exercises. The development of the mind, body and spirit became her passion. Julia shares the lessons she learned through countless hours of practice and reflection the arts of Hapkido, Taekwondo and Kumdo. Earning an undergraduate degree in Sociology from the University of Southern California and a Masters of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary in the City of New York, Julia’s academic pursuits center on connecting individuals to their true selves and to one another. Julia has served as the Minister to Youth & Families at St. Mark’s Church in the Bowery, as a worship leader at Common Ground, a farm-to-table dinner church, and as a Chaplain at Soldier On, a non-profit serving struggling and homeless military veterans.  Julia is a co-founder of the Athena Initiative, a social impact organization and incubator, and the Master Instructor at Do Shim Martial Arts.

Vennly: Something that you’ve spoken about is the need for individuals to “cultivate openness.” What exactly does this mean to you and what steps can individuals take to become more open? (or open-minded?)

Julia: Cultivating openness is an idea I have been chewing on for some time. It seems to me most people would like to think they are open: open minded, open to new experiences, open to difference and open to change. I would include myself in that category. Often, we describe ourselves as open even when we know deep down there are places in us that are not as open as we hope. We may think we have the diversity and inclusion thing down, but there is always room for growth. So, I like the notion that being open isn’t a once and done thing. It is a way of being in the world. I liken it to meditation. You don’t meditate once and then find everlasting peace; you have to keep returning to the practice to receive the benefits. Openness is the same. It must be cultivated. It can be cultivated through the letting go of one’s ego and attachments as well as by embracing continuous learning.

In my own life, this notion has called me to begin to do some deep work on the use of pronouns. As a lesbian cisgendered woman of color, I felt I was an open person, capable of making room for new ideas and new ways of being in the world without hesitation. I was wrong. I had some real hang-ups about using non-binary language such as they/them/theirs. Those hang ups were rooted in semantic tradition and a lack of openness to change in an area I previously viewed as static. Someone I care about in my life was hurt by this, and I was shown I have more work to do to cultivate openness. As a result, I’ve been exposing myself more and more to the stories and the lives of people who can open me up to a different viewpoint. In the end, my trans and gender non-conforming siblings are more important than my need to classify things within the grammatical framework I learned in elementary school.

Vennly: You are in the process of realizing a childhood dream of yours – opening a martial arts studio where you will be the Master Instructor. What led you down this path and how does it feel to see a lifelong goal come to fruition?

I pretty much decided when I was an eight-year-old yellow belt, I wanted to grow up and run my own school. Over the years, I have taught at a number of schools and martial arts programs. While all of them were meaningful to me, there is something to be said for being able to build a school rooted in the values that I hold most dear: community, spiritual development, mental fortitude, wellness, empowerment through self-defense and physical fitness grounded in scientific research. As I get closer to making this dream a reality, it isn’t lost on me that now more than ever the most vulnerable in our society (women, children, LGBTQ folks, people of color) need a space where they can develop the skills they need to feel safe, to feel empowered and to cultivate peace in this chaotic world. Thinking about how Do Shim Martial Arts can provide that space, alongside providing men a space to develop themselves outside of hypermasculinity, brings me a lot of joy and a deep sense that this is a significant part of what the Creator is calling me to do.

Vennly: In your Vennly Perspectives, you speak about overcoming gender biases in the martial arts. As a female master instructor, what is your advice to other girls and women who may have interest in exploring this sport?

Never give up. Tenacity leads to success. Martial arts are a personal journey done in community. How much your skills develop depends primarily on how committed you are to achieving your goals. Even if you don’t feel fully supported by the school or the gym you’re in, you can support yourself. Keep reading. Keep practicing. Keep moving forward because you are so much more than the obstacles in your way.

Vennly: For you, what is the connection between martial arts and spirituality?

I truly believe martial arts are an active form of spiritual practice. To me, spirituality is any method used to find a deeper understanding of the self, to seek a higher understanding of truth, and to connect with something greater than oneself. Martial arts are an active method for achieving these goals. They use physical techniques to quiet the mind and to still the spirit. In addition, martial arts are the ultimate mindfulness practice. Staying fully present in the moment requires the total harmonization of one’s body, mind and spirit. You experience in real time how to stay present and the joys of doing so. In martial arts, as in life, we must stay mindful (aware and present) in peaceful moments but also (and more importantly) in moments of discomfort.

This brief explanation just begins to scratch the surface of how spirituality connects to the martial arts. I could go on and on about the various principles and their connection to spiritual practice. I look forward to writing more and to creating more podcasts on this very important topic. For now, the place to get started using martial arts as a spiritual practice is with mindfulness/awareness. For those of us who have active minds or a high level of physical energy, active mindfulness helps to balance our energy and allows for the fertile ground needed to develop higher levels of consciousness.

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Vennly Leader Spotlight: Q&A with Ross Murray

Ross Murray is the Senior Director of Education & Training at The GLAAD Media Institute, which provides activist, spokesperson, and media engagement training and education for LGBTQ and allied community members and organizations desiring to deepen their media impact. Ross is also a founder and director of The Naming Project, a faith-based camp for LGBTQ youth and their allies. Ross is a consecrated Deacon in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, with a specific calling to advocate for LGBTQ people and to bridge the LGBTQ and faith communities.

Vennly: From your experience, how do people typically use media platforms to engage with their spirituality?

Ross: I find a couple ways people use media platforms. One is to share evidence of their practices: selfies with Ash Wednesday crosses, offering of שנה טובה during Rosh Hashanah or عيد مبارك during Eid.

The other is to post questions and comments that help them to either wrestle with questions about their faith, or to make declarative statements about what the believe and value.

And I think both CAN be helpful in spiritual practice. Just remember, these are tools. They are not the fulfillment of your spiritual practice. If they don’t work for you, change it up.


Vennly: How has your work at GLAAD intersected with your spiritual life?

Ross: My work is a calling, and I don’t just mean that in a metaphorical way. As a Lutheran Deacon, my ministry is considered “Word and Service.” I have a call that comes through my denomination to do LGBTQ advocacy through my daily work at GLAAD. It also means that my faith life has been held up as one possible example of a life that intersects faith and LGBTQ identity. GLAAD has amplified me proclaiming the Word, as well as my faith practices.

Vennly: What was the inspiration for The Naming Project?

Ross: It started with a gay boy in the suburbs of Minneapolis, who I never met. He came out to his family, and they were accepting, but wanted to find a church-based LGBTQ youth group, since they didn’t know best how to support him. They couldn’t find anything, and asked around for help, which eventually reached me and a friend. We researched, and after finding no faith-based LGBTQ youth ministries, decided that we needed to create one.

Vennly: What are your future aspirations for The Naming Project and how can people get involved in this endeavor?

Ross: A long-time dream has been to expand the offerings of The Naming Project. Some ideas that are in the works is an adult version of The Naming Project summer camp. We get so many adults saying they wish they had this experience, that it would be good to provide that summer church camp experience. I’d also like to launch a family camp, with LGBTQ parents, parents of LGBTQ kids, and any mix thereof!
If people want to support us, we constantly need help reaching young people. Please share information about The Naming Project summer camp with LGBTQ and allied youth. You can connect them to our web site or our Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

Vennly: What is the best way for allies to best support the LGBTQ community?

Ross: First, I think “ally” is something we strive for, rather than a title we give ourselves. I also think that allyship is for more than just the LGBTQ community. If someone wants to be an ally (to any community), try these best practices:

  1. Believe what people tell you about themselves and their experience.
  2. Ask what you can do to be helpful in a given situation, and take the directive seriously (even if it is “do nothing”)
  3. Recognize that an attack on one community is often an attack on several communities, and that the impact is disproportionately felt by those further marginalized.
  4. Don’t tell us you are an ally, but rather, demonstrate it in your actions.
  5. Do tell other non-LGBTQ people why you are an ally.

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Vennly Leader Spotlight: Q&A with Chanda Rule

Vocalist, writer and sacred community curator Chanda Rule brings the energy and discipline of a performer to the leading of music and story in ways that encourage all people to use their voices powerfully, peacefully and bathed in Spirit. An interfaith minister and graduate of Union Theological Seminary in New York City, Chanda has shared music, story and community song with groups, audiences and communities around the world. Her integration of music with sacred text, liturgy, and story-telling opens up new vistas for congregations and communities.

 

Vennly: For those that aren’t familiar with the term, how is an “interfaith minister” different from a denominational minister?

Chanda: Interfaith ministry respects and honors all religious and spiritual paths, from traditional to non-traditional practices. Denominational ministers typically minister to folks within specific religious traditions — although these lines are blurry these days with many religious communities including more and more practices that are not specific to their own religious heritage into their liturgies as teaching tools and to extend welcome and hospitality.

 

Vennly: What role has music played in your life and do you see any overlap between music and faith/spirituality?

Chanda: Music has always been a holy language for me. It’s how I pray, how I have solved conflict, how I’ve made friends, and is the foundation for many of my closest relationships. The most sacred thing about music to me is that it’s an expression that goes beyond language or culture or background or affiliation. It’s something that brings people together, makes us feel, and also allows us to heal.

 

Vennly: You’ve created a series for Vennly called, “In Search of Tiny Miracles.” Why are tiny miracles important?

Chanda: I am often searching for that big…Thing. That special moment that will perfect my life…or that huge awakening that will change the world. But I was recently encouraged to pay attention to the small steps that lead to these changes; and I began to notice that there were so many little blessings around me that I regularly overlooked, that were downright miraculous and brought simple and life-changing joy.

 

Vennly: You grew in the US but you now live with your husband and son in Vienna, Austria. Has living outside of the US changed your spiritual worldview?  

Chanda: Austria is pretty religiously conservative which has given me the opportunity to experience sacred community in a new way. I am finding value in being a part of traditional sacred communities with others who have completely different spiritual values than my own — some which I find soul crushing and not so divine. It is a frustrating, joyful, confusing, and yet love-filled time — a life-test to my interfaith call, and a constant reminder that I can deeply love folks who value that which I oppose. And I wrestle with it continuously. Part of me wants to give it up and the other part feels that it’s a necessary part of living together as an evolving species. If we can’t deal with conflict in our sacred spaces where can we? This is where music sets an example. The beauty comes with the harmony and dissonance, the clashing movement and the serene pause.

 

Vennly: What excites you about working with Vennly?

Chanda: I’m excited to share stories with Vennly! It’s awesome that Vennly is so committed to inclusiveness and is open to different perspectives and ways of sharing them. How amazing is it to be able to build and curate sacred community online – to get inspired and give inspiration — worldwide! I completely dig the diversity of spiritual leaders – and the mission to meet people where they are in their journey to Love.

 

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Vennly Leader Spotlight: Q&A with Stephanie Varnon-Hughes, PhD

Stephanie Varnon-Hughes, Ph.D., is the Director of the Claremont Core at Claremont Lincoln University, and an award winning teacher and interfaith leader. She is the host of the religion & culture podcast In Times Like These and author of Interfaith Grit: How Uncertainty Will Save Us. Varnon-Hughes was a co-founder and editor-in-chief of The Journal of Inter-Religious Studies, a peer reviewed journal, and its sister publication, State of Formation, an online forum for emerging religious and ethical leaders. She holds a Ph.D. from Claremont Lincoln University, an M.A. and S.T.M. from Union Theological Seminary and her undergraduate degrees are in English and Education, from Webster University.  

 

Vennly: In your opinion, what does the future of interfaith relations look like in the US? What are some of the biggest challenges?

Stephanie: It’s natural to feel a bit uncertain when we encounter different viewpoints. But we can’t stay in that uncertain place—we have to keep going, so that we can learn and be good neighbors and civic participants. This is the work of interfaith.

Religious and ethical leaders should be teaching their communities how to engage with difference. Any of us can read our sacred texts, or Google what we should believe. What we need help doing is engaging with people who don’t believe like us.

 

Vennly: As the director of the Claremont Core you are helping your students become the next generation of change-makers and leaders. What is your advice for individuals who are thinking about getting into interfaith work?

Stephanie: True dialogue means relationship, and dialogue done well leads to change. If we can’t listen to one another, we will never see other points of view. We’ll remain entrenched in our current patterns. Being open to other ideas is important. Being open to changing your view is revolutionary. Dialogue is an invitation to do this—and the more we participate, the more likely we are to find ways to solve conflict.

 

Vennly: In what ways have your personal experiences informed your professional endeavors?

Stephanie: I want to know people. I love people. I love talking to people. I wonder: Who do you love? Where do your children play? What’s your dream job? What are you worried about? Who looks after your health and long-term security? Who will come help you in an emergency? I think if you made a list of all of the people who connect to all of those answers, you will find that your beautiful life is already surrounded by diversity. My invitation to you is to go ahead and embrace it. Get to know those people. They need you. Your life will be enriched—or at least made a little more joyful, a little more bearable, a little more secure—when you meet others just where they are, and when you’re okay with the fact that they’re not exactly like you. I don’t call this “interfaith” work necessarily, but as it turns out, that’s been the framework for all of my professional work.

 

Vennly: As the host of a podcast on religion and culture, what are the benefits of audio as a vehicle to discuss and explore issues of faith and spirituality?

Stephanie: Stories are ancient. There is something powerful about needing to tell someone something. Our experiences make us unique, and tie us to others. Audio allows me to hear your voice, and to share my own. We find ourselves in relationship more immediately (and more immersively) than with text. These are fraught issues, we fail and share our fears–audio allows you to hear how I’m making sense of the world, beyond just the words I’m saying.

 

Follow Stephanie:

Blog:: https://www.claremontlincoln.edu/engage/author/svarnon-hughes/page/2/ 

Podcast: In Times Like These

Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/in-times-like-these

Apple podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/in-times-like-these-with-dr-stephanie-varnon-hughes/id1332076490?mt=2

Podbean: https://intimeslikethese.podbean.com/

Twitter: @SVarnonHughes

Instagram: @panoramicgreen, #InTimesLikeThese, #InterfaithGrit

What is pastoral care and why does it matter?

At Vennly, one thing we talk a lot about is the importance of pastoral care. Definitions of what pastoral care covers can vary, but to us it means counsel, support, and guidance provided by spiritual and community leaders related to life topics. For many of our contributors, providing pastoral care is among their most important responsibilities.

Yet, our research indicates that many people don’t seek out pastoral care because they view it strictly as a forum for asking religious questions, or they fear getting judged by spiritual leaders. At Vennly, we want to change that. We view the content our leaders are creating as a form of pastoral care, which we like to call spiritual care. And our hope is that Vennly will provide the opportunity to access this much-needed life guidance on-demand.

To better understand spiritual care and what motivates people to seek it out, we surveyed our Vennly leaders and you can check out their responses below. We’re looking forward to sharing the Vennly version of spiritual care in the coming months!

Vennly Leader Spotlight: Q&A with Rev. Dr. Erin Raffety

Rev. Dr. Erin Raffety is a Lecturer in Youth, Church, and Culture in the area of Education Formation in the Department of Practical Theology at Princeton Theological Seminary. She earned her MDiv from Princeton Seminary and her PhD in Cultural Anthropology from Princeton University. She is an ordained minister in the Presbyterian Church USA. Her interests include culture, family, disability studies, ethnography, and theology.

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Vennly Leader Spotlight: Q&A with Rabbi Avram Mlotek

Rabbi Avram Mlotek is a Base Hillel co-founder and the Rabbi of Base MNHTN. In May 2015, Avram was listed as one of America’s “Most Inspiring Rabbis” by The Jewish Daily Forward. In 2012, The New York Jewish Week selected him as a “leading innovator in Jewish life today,” as part of their “36 Under 36” section. Prior to joining Base, Avram served as a rabbi in training at The Carlebach Shul, The Hebrew Institute of Riverdale, The Educational Alliance and Hunter College Hillel.  Avram’s writing has appeared in The Los Angeles Times, The Forward, Tablet, Haaretz, The Jerusalem Post, The Jewish Week, The Huffington Post, and Kveller, among other blogs. Read more

Vennly Leader Spotlight: Q&A with Dr. Murali Balaji

Murali Balaji, Ph.D., is a journalist, author, academic, and spiritual leader with nearly 20 years of experience in diversity leadership. Balaji has served as the education director for the Hindu American Foundation, where he was recognized as a national leader in cultural competency and religious literacy. He co-founded The Voice of Philadelphia, a non-profit geared to help high school dropouts (or pushouts) develop media literacy and citizen journalism skills. He has also been a professor at Temple University and Lincoln University, where he chaired the mass communication department and engaged in multi-method research. He is a certified anti-bias trainer through the Anti-Defamation League (ADL) and serves on the national advisory board of the Religious Freedom Center of the Newseum Institute. Read more

We’re Thankful for Those that Believe in Us

A short message of gratitude to our spiritual leaders

We’ve been working on Vennly full time for a little more than a year, and the journey to this point has exposed us to ideas, beliefs, and realities that we had never considered before. Read more

Finding Spirituality on the Sidewalk: Creating Moments of Ritual and Spiritual Practice in your Daily Routine

Finding spirituality during daily routine

It’s not an easy exercise to define spirituality, or what it means to be spiritual. As shared in a previous post, in our research we asked people to define spirituality in their own words and the dominant theme we saw is that spirituality is personal and flexible. This provided some general guardrails, but we wanted to know more. Read more